Friday, October 23, 2009

destined to be alone?

Okay, I attend this seminar. I went with a girlfriend of mine. We're sitting there and another friend of ours is there. His name is David. He's a wonderful person. His chronological age I believe is 67 or 68. This man plays rugby with 25 - 30 year olds. I mean he's amazing. He's lived in Europe and raised his children there. He's originally from back east - he is wonderful. He's been around the block a few times. Always has a girlfriend - good guy! I like and respect him.

So the seminar we're at is dealing with money, blah, blah, blah. So he and I got into a conversation about values that kids have and how he and his wife raised their kids, yada, yada, yada. Well his two daughters are grown. One has two children and the other is not married - still single. So David, being the wonderful - back east person, in your face kind of guy that he is makes the following comment. "You know I don't think my daughter will ever get married. She meets stupid men that are unable to be at her level. I feel sorry for her and women like you because strong, independent women are destined to be alone."

Okay, gulp, how do I take that. Was that a slam?? I don't think so. There is a little truth in that statement but come on ~ is that true? Is there not a man out there who can satisfy, feed, grow etc. with me. Yuck what a thought!!! I thought there were some men out there for me. Mind you, I'm not desperate for someone ~ however, I would like someone in my life at some point to grow old with, yell at because the seat's not down, grab his hand in the movie theatre when the scene is romantic or shocking, that guy that tries to take the best piece of food off your plate and you don't mind - you know what I mean What's up with that?

The fact that he made this statement did not bother me. It was the depth and the meaning of the statement. He was only stating what he feels is the obvious ~ can't get mad at someone's honesty - now can you? For the last day and a half I have been pondering this. Oh . . . whoa is me . . .

(Don't worry, I'm not depressed. There are worse things in life)


  1. I know a girl like that. Several girls. One is married. One has been dating a guy for almost two years now. So there's hope for you. (: I think it takes a special of guy to respect women with those qualities. So it's worth the wait.

  2. I sometimes wonder the same thing. I would like to be married again someday, but not if it means I have to start doing as I'm told and stop thinking for myself. Good luck to us both.

  3. I get this from people, too. I know I'm a lot to handle and at 43, pretty set in my ways. Current on again long distance relationship is with a 58 year old. Finally a secure man who appreciates me for me and yet, I'm not holdin' my breath.

  4. Ladies, thank you first of all for following!!! Also, thanks for all different angles of this situation. For all of us life gets only better day by day. I think we're all good peeps. Doesn't take another person to make life complete ~ but it is a nice sweet treat!!!!